Think you're unlucky? It's not luck!

Wanted to share something that blew my mind! And it has everything to do with an abundance mindset, you know that concept of baraka I often write/talk about.

Ever feel like some people just have it easier? Like they're naturally lucky, and you're... not?

Well, a psychologist called Richard Wiseman spent a decade studying hundreds of people who called themselves lucky and hundreds who called themselves unlucky. He wanted to know why some people seemed to always be in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experienced misfortune. Here’s what he found.

🍀 Lucky people weren't magically attracting opportunities, they were simply noticing them. Their brains were trained to spot what was possible.

😵 Unlucky people? Well, their brains were tuned to threat, so they spotted closed doors, rejection, risk and that's what their reality looked like.

Here's the neuroscience as I understand it: Our brain filters millions of signals every second. It can't process everything, so it acts like a bouncer at a nightclub, deciding what reaches our awareness and what gets ignored.

So when we're anxious or doubtful, that filter is set to "watch for what goes wrong," and we tune into failure, rejection, other people’s perceptions. We then start seeing obstacles everywhere because we’ve been trained to only see that. Meanwhile, people whose filter is tuned to possibility focus on learning, growth, choice, what's already working etc. The difference is what their brain has been trained to look for.

This is where things become interesting for anyone who wants to shape their own destiny or maktoub!

The real leverage point isn’t luck, it’s attention. The easier fix than a psychological deep dive into our upbringing and family history, is just to pay attention to the questions we ask ourselves. 

Many of us move through life asking: Will this disappoint me? Will I be rejected? Will this fail?But when you start crafting your life more consciously and fearlessly, the questions shift. They’ll look like “lucky” people questions: where is the opportunity here? Who is aligned with my values? What expands my life?

Many of us move through life asking: Will this disappoint me? Will I be rejected? Will this fail?But when you start crafting your life more consciously and fearlessly, the questions shift. They’ll look like “lucky” people questions: where is the opportunity here? Who is aligned with my values? What expands my life?

Those types of questions train your attention, and attention trains what you notice, which then changes the people you meet, the conversations you have, the risks you take, and the chances you recognize.

At its simplest form I think that’s what baraka really is, not some mystical force, but a trained mind. A practiced habit of noticing abundance instead of scarcity.

I think the women in the ROUH oraclemoved through the world this way. They didn’t get stuck on what could go wrong (and plenty did in their lives). They asked themselves the questions that opened the doors they wanted to walk through. What guided them instead was a deep sense of baraka, a sharp niya, and an even sharper himma to reach for something larger than their doubt.

And look at these cards! They’re a sample of the “baraka” cards from my Sacred Flow digital deck, looking at the questions I think I intuitively knew that they could unlock a life lived ON purpose.

Remember that destiny moves with what you pay attention to. If you ever think that you are “unlucky,” you now know how to quickly change the questions you ask yourself and witness how your world transforms!

Heartfuly,

Ratiba